Gottman’s Theory of How to Make Your Relationship Last

By Ryan Smith

When advising their clients on how to save a romantic relationship, lots of psychologists and psychotherapists still rely on random tidbits of conventional wisdom and generalities. But their advice is not science-based.

John M. Gottman, who is both a mathematician and a psychologist, has used data to back up his study. There are countless people out there who pretend to know how to make a romantic relationship work and how to save it. But Gottman’s recommendations have the advantage of being founded on hard, statistical data. According to Gottman, successful couples are not smarter, richer, or more psychologically aware than other people. But they have established a give and take between them that keeps their relationship strong. ...

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