Ghosting refers to the tendency in modern dating to end a relationship through silence, e.g., by not replying to the other person’s messages and calls. Not taking the time to properly end a relationship is often considered hurtful and inappropriate.
Peter Jonason and his colleagues at Padua University now believe they have found a way to determine who is likely to ghost.
Are you likely to ghost? For each of the following questions, indicate how well it applies to you below.
Question 1 of 16
I have a grand sense of self-worth.
The IDRlabs Ghosting Test was developed by IDRlabs. The IDR Ghosting Test is based on the work of Peter Jonason and his colleagues at Padua University, who wrote the paper “Leaving without a word: Ghosting and the Dark Triad traits.” IDRlabs is not associated with any specific researchers in the field of psychopathology or any affiliated research institutions.
The test measures ghosting probabilities using the following scales:
Ghosting Acceptability: Indicates whether your overall morality is likely to see ghosting as an acceptable way of ending a relationship.
Fast Mating Strategy: People with a fast mating strategy tend to have many casual, low-commitment sexual relationships that do not last a long time. They also tend to have more sexual partners in their life than the average person.
Likelihood of Ghosting: Your overall likelihood of using ghosting to end a relationship. Higher scores indicate a greater probability of ghosting.
Ghosting, also called simmering or icing, is a modern term that describes a way of ending a relationship by simply stopping all communication and contact with the other person without any warning, explanation, or justification. Many people who ghost also subsequently ignore any attempts by the other person to reach out and establish communication about what happened.
In recent years, the media has reported an increase in ghosting, which has often been tied to the increasing use of digital communications and online dating apps such as Tinder.
Experts speculate that people engage in ghosting to avoid the emotional discomfort of a proper breakup. People who ghost usually avoid thinking too deeply about whether their behavior will make the other person feel or hurt. In mental health circles, ghosting has been associated with negative mental states and moods in the person receiving the ghosting. Ghosting has also been described by some mental health experts as a form of emotional abuse or spite.
This test is based on the following scientific paper: Jonason PK, Kaźmierczak I, Campos AC, Davis MD. Leaving without a word: Ghosting and the Dark Triad traits. Acta Psychol (Amst). 2021 Oct;220:103425. doi: 10.1016/j.actpsy.2021.103425. Epub 2021 Oct 2. PMID: 34610555.
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