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Apology Languages Test

The Apology Languages framework is a popular tool for exploring how a person expresses apologies and likes to make amends in their relationships. This test will measure yours.

What is your apology language like? For each of the following statements, indicate how well it applies to you below.

Question 1 of 25

Thinking back on the apologies you have received in the past, how did you typically react to statements along the lines of...

That was thoughtless of me. I wish I had been more considerate of your feelings.



The IDRlabs Apology Languages Test (IDR-ALT) was developed by IDRlabs. The IDR-ALT is based on the work of Dr. Gary Chapman, Ph.D. and Dr. Jennifer Thomas, Ph.D., who authored the book, "The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in Your Relationships” and the tool, “The Five Apology Languages Test.” The IDR-ALT is not associated with any specific researchers in the field of personality psychology, counseling psychology, or any affiliated research institutions.

The IDRlabs Apology Languages Test was informed by the Five Apology Languages Test criteria for apology languages as published in Chapman, G., & Thomas, J. (2006). The five languages of apology: How to experience healing in your relationships. Northfield Publishing and Chapman, G., & Thomas, J. (2013). When sorry isn’t enough: Making things right with those you love. Northfield Publishing.

The work of Dr. Chapman and Dr. Thomas has also informed some of the diagnostic criteria in the form of the widely used psychological instrument, the Five Apology Languages Test for clinical use especially by qualified mental health professionals. The present test is intended for educational purposes only. IDRlabs and the present IDRlabs Apology Languages Test are independent of the above researchers, organizations, or their affiliated institutions.

The IDRlabs Apology Languages Test is based on a famous and well-regarded inventory for the assessment of the clinical concept of Apology Languages. However, free online tests and quizzes such as this one are solely first takes and cannot provide accurate assessments of your potential condition. Hence, the test is intended to be used for educational purposes only. A definitive mental health assessment can be made only by a qualified mental health professional.

As the publishers of this free online apology languages test, which allows you to screen yourself for the characteristics and manifestations of your apology language, we have striven to make the test as reliable and valid as possible by subjecting it to statistical controls and validation. However, free online quizzes such as the present Apology Languages Test do not provide professional assessments or recommendations of any kind; the test is provided entirely “as-is.” For more information about any of our online tests and quizzes, please consult our Terms of Service.

Why Use This Test?

1. Free. This apology languages test is delivered to you free of charge and will allow you to obtain your scores related to expressing regret, accepting responsibility, making restitution, genuinely repenting, and requesting forgiveness.

2. Clinically oriented. The feedback delivered by this instrument is based on the work of Ph.D.s and is designed to deliver a clear clinical picture of the respondent’s current traits indicating apology languages as measured according to standardized items.

3. Statistical controls. Statistical analysis of the test is conducted to ensure maximum accuracy and validity of the test scores.

4. Made by professionals. The present test has been made with the input of people who work professionally with psychology and individual differences research.