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Love/Loneliness Test

Is your Relationship Based on Loneliness or Love?

Based on the work of Dr. Mark Travers, Ph.D.

There is a significant distinction between actively seeking a romantic partner and remaining in, or trying to force a relationship to happen, out of loneliness. Occasionally, in our eagerness to find someone, we overlook this difference, leading us to reflect on past relationships and question why we did not notice the warning signs or ended up with someone who was clearly not a good match for us.

Is your relationship merely based on loneliness? For each of the following questions, indicate how well it applies to you below.

Question 1 of 18

I feel that I have to hide certain sides of my personality in my current relationship.



The IDRlabs 6-Minute Relationship Test (IDR-6MRT) was developed by IDRlabs. The IDR-6MRT is based on the work of Dr. Mark Travers who wrote the article: “3 Signs That a Relationship is Based on Loneliness, Not Love”. The IDR-6MRT is not associated with any specific researchers or authors in the field of social psychology, personality psychology, or any affiliated research institutions.

The IDRlabs 3 Minute Relationship Test was informed by the article, “3 Signs That a Relationship is Based on Loneliness, Not Love”, as published in Travers, M. (2023) 3 Signs that a relationship is based on loneliness, not love. Psychology Today.

The work of Dr. Travers has also informed some of the diagnostic criteria in the form of the aforementioned article reviewed by Davia Sills. The present test is intended for educational purposes only. IDRlabs and the present IDRlabs 6 Minute Relationship Test are independent from the above researchers, organizations, or their affiliated institutions.

The 6-Minute Relationship Test is based on an article published in the largest media enterprise devoted to the coverage of human behavior and mental health. However, free online tests and quizzes such as this one are solely first takes and cannot provide accurate assessments of your specific relationship status. Hence, the test is intended to be used for educational purposes only. A definitive assessment can be made only by a qualified professional.

As the publishers of this free online 6-Minute Relationship Test, which allows you to screen yourself for the characteristics of this relationship, we have strived to make the test as reliable and valid, as possible, by subjecting this test to statistical controls and validation. However, free online quizzes such as the present 6-Minute Relationship Test do not provide professional assessments or recommendations of any kind; the test is provided entirely “as-is.” For more information about any of our online tests and quizzes, please consult our Terms of Service.

Why Use This Test?

1. Free. This 6-Minute Relationship Test is delivered to you free of charge and will allow you to obtain your scores related to a relationship based on loneliness or love.

2. Clinically oriented. The feedback delivered by this instrument is based on the work of a clinical psychologist and is designed to deliver a clear picture of the respondent’s current perception of his/her relationship as measured according to standardized items.

3. Statistical controls. Statistical analysis of the test is conducted to ensure maximum accuracy and validity of the test scores.

4. Made by professionals. The present test has been made with the input of people who work professionally with psychology and individual differences research.