As opposed to the generally negative traits of self-pity or excessive self-love, Dr. Kristin Neff holds that self-compassion is an essential skill in coping with the setbacks of life. According to Dr. Neff, self-compassion is really no different than compassion for others and entails positive qualities such as kindness, forgiveness, and understanding toward oneself.
What are your levels of self-compassion like? For each of the following statements, indicate how well it describes you below.
Question 1 of 30
When I fail at something important to me, I tend to isolate myself afterward.
The IDRlabs Self-Compassion Test (IDR-ST) was developed by IDRlabs. The IDR-ST is based on the work of Dr. Kristin Neff, Ph.D., who created the Self-Compassion Scale (SCS). The IDR-ST is not associated with any specific researchers in the field of personality psychology or any affiliated research institutions.
The test provides feedback such as the following: Self-Kindness: People who have a high level of self-compassion have an easy time thinking of challenges in ways that are kind to themselves and constructive concerning the problems they face. They are warm and understanding in their way of viewing occurrences that could cause others to fail or suffer. Such people do not engage in excessive self-criticism, as they understand that one cannot always achieve one’s goals and that there are times in life when things do not go according to plan. They are gentle with themselves when facing distressing experiences.
Self-Forgiveness: People who are good at self-compassion often practice self-forgiveness; they refrain from getting angry when they do not get what they want or when things do not go according to their expectations. Likewise, they do not beat themselves up with all the “shoulds” and “musts” that they have in their heads on account of their ideals. Hence, such people are good at dealing with high levels of stress and frustration and at expertly navigating setbacks.
Humanity: Many people who score high on self-compassion understand that failures and other unpleasant situations are common to humanity. They recognize that struggles are a part of the human experience and that they are not alone in their hardships. They refrain from isolating themselves, and they do not think that they alone are having difficulties.
Engagement: One feature of self-compassion is the tendency to remain active in one’s social life when beset by troubles; indeed, to refrain from self-isolating. Conversely, those who have low levels of self-compassion often isolate themselves by thinking that they alone face troubles and difficult situations in life. Such people do not realize that personal struggles are a part of the human experience that we all share, and that remaining social through such challenges makes them easier to bear.
The IDRlabs Self-Compassion Test was informed by the SCS’ criteria for self-compassion, as published in Neff, K. D. (2003). The self-compassion scale is a valid and theoretically coherent measure of self-compassion. Mindfulness 7: 264-274; Neff, K.D. (2016). Development and validation of a scale to measure self-compassion. Self and Identity, 2, 223-250; Williams M, Dalgleish T, Karl A, Kuyken W (2014). Examining the factor structures of the five facet mindfulness questionnaire and the self-compassion scale. Psychol Assess 30: 669-689.
The work of Dr. Neff has also informed some of the diagnostic criteria in the form of the widely used psychological instrument, the SCS for clinical use especially by qualified mental health professionals. The present test is intended for educational purposes only. IDRlabs and the present IDRlabs Self-Compassion Test are independent of the above researchers, organizations, or their affiliated institutions.
The IDRlabs Self-Compassion Test is based on a famous and well-regarded inventory for the assessment of the clinical concept of self-compassion. However, free online tests and quizzes such as this one are solely first takes and cannot provide accurate assessments of your potential condition. Hence, the test is intended to be used for educational purposes only. A definitive mental health assessment can be made only by a qualified mental health professional.
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