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Love Styles Test

The love styles framework is a popular tool for exploring how a person expresses love and likes to be treated in their relationships. This test will measure yours.

What are your love styles like? For each of the following statements, indicate how well it applies to you below.

Question 1 of 35

I like physically being with the people I care for.



The IDRlabs Love Styles Test (IDR-LST) was developed by IDRlabs. The IDR-LST is not the same as the work of Dr. Gary Chapman, Ph.D., who authored the book, “The 5 Love Languages®” or the Love LanguageTM quiz. The IDR-LST is not associated with Dr. Chapman or any specific researchers in the field of personality psychology, counseling psychology, or any affiliated research institutions. Nor is this test the equivalent of Dr. Chapman’s Love LanguageTM quiz. The 5 Love Languages® and other formative registered and common law “Love Language” trademarks are owned by The Moody Bible Institute of Chicago, which is not affiliated with this site.

The test provides feedback such as the following: Words: People whose love style is Words communicate love through kind words and encouragement. Their love style involves spoken words, praises, or compliments. They themselves also feel loved when others talk to them in a positive and encouraging way or send them positive messages, love notes, or inspiring quotes.

Focus: People whose love style is Focus communicate love through giving another their undivided attention. Such focus may involve uninterrupted and deeply-attentive conversations in one-on-one settings – creating special moments together, turning off phones, and shutting out other distractions. They themselves also feel loved when they are prioritized, and they deepen their connections by spending such special times with others.

Gifts: People whose love style is Gifts cherish the effort and creativity put into the presents which are being given to and by them. They see gifts as important symbols of love and affection. It is important to note that people with this love style do not normally expect expensive or large gifts since what they value is the sentiment and the meaning behind the object. They feel loved when others take the time to look for the “perfect” gift for them, and they express love by finding the perfect gifts for others.

Acts: People whose love style is Acts enjoy when others do everyday, helpful things for them. They feel loved when others take the time to do small favors for them, such as when others make their tea or coffee exactly the way they like it or when their partner volunteers to help them with tasks that are difficult or draining for them. This love style is the origin of the familiar adage that “actions speak louder than words.”

Touch: People whose love style is Touch cherish being hugged, touched, and physically close to the people they are comfortable with. Their love style is one of physical affection. For instance, an ideal date may include holding hands, cuddling, and sitting close with each other – simply enjoying the exchange of intimacy and familiarity.

As the publishers of this free online Love Styles Test, which allows you to screen yourself for the characteristics and manifestations of your love style, we have striven to make the test as reliable and valid as possible by subjecting it to statistical controls and validation. However, free online quizzes such as the present Love Styles Test do not provide professional assessments or recommendations of any kind; the test is provided entirely “as-is.” For more information about any of our online tests and quizzes, please consult our Terms of Service.

Love Styles Test

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1. Free. This Love Styles Test is delivered to you free of charge.

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3. Made by professionals. The present test has been made with the input of people who work professionally with psychology and individual differences research.